what i'm wearing: mom and dad are up and mom brought a huge bag full of clothes that are too big for her and so she is passing them to me. let's all just take a second to join in the pathetic fact that i am fatter than my mom. ............. thanks. but on the bright side, i have a whole bunch of new clothes now. although most ofthem are still too small for me, i am shrinking steadily and will fit into them eventually. so today, i am wearing my "new" pink sweater and grey work pants. what a novelty: a sweater that doesnt have a thousand little balls on it from our crappy washer and dryer! horay!
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in the kitchen: i FINALLY got to grill out sunday and made some really good steaks. yesterday i made bbq meatballs and egg noodles with green beans. tonight, spinach salad and later in the week some fish. tomorrow i'm making a roast for a friend and her girls who come and visit every wednesday. i like food.
crafting: will work on some baby shower invites tonight and have lots of sewing projects in the works for the shower and for the man cave. i'll be making a manly quilt for charles, lots of black fabric. :) hopefully he doesn't think it's lame.
reading: finished the fannie flagg book and mom brought me a couple more. there seem to be sooo many things to do other than read, but it's nice when i get the chance. my boss recommended the books about "how to date your son/daughter" so at some point i would like to look into those.
bringing me joy: my husband and all his mysterious awesomeness. lots of progress on the house. i spent over 6 hrs working in the yard saturday and i am still sore, but it was very satisfying to have done it all myself for once and it looks a million times better. i moved some plants around and took out some others and pruned and spruced up. hopefully they all survive!
thinking about: previously mentioned husband and how much i want to see his handsome face and just touch him and talk to him whenever i want. so often with cameron there are times when i think 'man! i wish i had charles here so WE could come up with a solution to this problem!', but at the same time, i worry about when that is a reality and how it may or may not frustrate me if we do not agree. by the time he is home, i will have done a lot of disciplining solo and i fear that it will be a difficult transition for all of us. but no need to borrow worry i guess.
picture to share:
installation of the child locks on the cabinets last night - cameron was most helpful to grandpa by shutting all the cabinet doors repeatedly just as grandpa got the drill bit lined up. he's so handy. also - baby plaid pajama pants!!!!!!!!!!!!
4 comments:
First of all- plaid baby pajama pants- squeeeeee! George has a few pairs of plaid pajama pants and they are some of my favorite things for him to wear. He might have worn them all day on some occasions (because they are cute and because he hates for me to dress him).
And regarding him being mean lately- my best suggestion is imitate the behavior you want him to display. They pick up on everything and even if it doesn't sink in right away, he is a little sponge right now. Receptive language is far more developed at his age than what he can actually speak.
For an example: if he is being aggressive with you- hitting, biting, whatever, you firmly tell him "no" and then imitate the preferred behavior. We usually use "soft" because it is descriptive. Then demonstrate- rub him softly on the arm, take his hand and have him give you a soft touch. It takes some repetition but I have found it to be fairly effective.
As he gets more words and finds other actions that he can use to convey what he wants, being rough should subside. When George starts to get worked up and gets that "look" like he is going to be aggressive, I just remind him of soft touches (and remove him from the situation if necessary) and it has helped immensely.
Bah, sorry that we really wordy. I hope it helps. Toddlers can be tricky to figure out sometimes :)
thank you!!! i knew you'd have some great ideas. sometimes i am just so lost and i just sort of sit there and look at him and think "what the heck do i do with that?!". :)
If it makes you feel any better, I still have times when I completely draw a blank in the moment as to how to deal with a behavior. With my older kids I play it off, "You just go in your room until I am ready to deal with you." so I can think of something appropriate, lol.
In addition to demonstrating the preferred behavior like Erin suggested, your tone of voice has a big effect on kids at this age since they're still building their vocabulary. If they don't know a word they go off of if you sound happy or upset to figure out what you mean. If he's doing something you don't want him to do use a sad voice with lower tones to it, whereas when he's demonstrating the way you would like him to act use a cheerful, higher pitched voice. Facial expressions are another cue they look to right now. Pair all three of those together and that should be helpful. Sounds like you're doing a great job regardless, so keep it up :)
And go you on the yard work! I come up with ideas, then they don't work out, so I just pull weeds to vent my frustration and leave the garden largely vacant due to my feelings of defeat. Blah. If I was made of money I would just hire a landscaper. Instead we will be going on our 4th year in this house and the garden will still not be anywhere near done :P
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